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This session is about self-confidence, what it is and how we can build it in ourselves.
A young man wanted to be a movie director. To become an ambitious achiever, he decided to practice by directing short movies which he recorded with a camera he owned.
He usually visited a filmmaking company that was located in his city of residence. He would dress nicely just like a movie director with an executive bag in his hand to the place.
This young man will move around the area to observe what was happening. His appearance to the place played a mind trick on the security guards thinking he was a worker. He found an empty office which he made his own.
One day, he got a chance to meet with one of the executives of the company and he showed him the videos he has made. He was impressed with his work and he was given a chance to direct a movie for the company.
The first movie he directed was a success which made the company, as well as himself, a huge amount of money.
This young man was confident in himself and in his skills. He knew he was good at what he was doing and he needed no one to tell him that. He portrayed self-confidence in his appearance and in the work he does.
All he wanted was to be a movie director, and by showing confidence in his work and himself, he was able to achieve success.
“As is our confidence, so is our capacity.” By William Hazlitt
What is Self-Confidence
Psychology Dictionary defines Self-confidence as our self-assurance in trusting our abilities, capacities and judgements. It is the attitude we have about our abilities and skills.
When we trust our abilities and skill very well that we show no signs of doubt, we show how confident we are in ourselves. Contrary to this is a sign of low self-confidence.
Myth About Self-Confidence
There are many myths about self-confidence, some we tell ourselves and some other people let us know about. These myths can keep us from building confidence in ourselves.
Most people have a belief that being self-confident means you are being “too known.” But contrary, self-confidence does not equate to being “too known.”
People who label others as “too known” most of the time, projects their own fears and insecurities on others.
The truth is, those people wish they had the “guts” and the ability to be what you are made up of but cannot be and so resort to name calling.
Self-confidence starts with knowing yourself and knowing WHOSE you are. WHOSE you are, means who you belong to.
I would like you to day-dream for some few seconds. I want you to imagine that you are the son or daughter of a president. Imagine how it feels like to be the son or daughter of a president of a nation.
In becoming self-confident, knowing the WHOSE you are is very important. When you know that you are the son or daughter of a highly respected man in your country, you walk with your head up high.
To be self-confident, you need to know who you are. And that goes beyond knowing your name, age and where you come from. It’s more of knowing what your strengths are and building on them to become even better. Aside from knowing what your strengths are, it’s important to also know what your weaknesses are so you can work on them
There is a term called SWOT analysis which you can use to know who you are in terms of assessing yourself in your strengths and weaknesses.
SWOT stands for Strength, Weakness, Opportunity and Threats. Your strengths are the things you are good at doing and can even become better. Your weaknesses are what you don’t do best. They are things you fall short of. Opportunity is something you can be better at doing when the appropriate training, education and the right discipline is employed. Threats are the things that can harm your life or future.
How to Become Self-Confident
You are thinking of becoming self-confident right? Then know this;
Self-confident people are the most criticized people.
Be ready to deal with a lot of criticisms, name calling and being vilified just because you are self-confident.
People will throw things at you so that you cower and coil into your shells. But I believe that is where the test of being self-confident truly lies.
These things can easily break you down. But if you know who you are, nothing can break you. Because they call you names doesn’t change the true identity of who you are and what you are made of. That is why it is very important to know whom you belong to.
There are some key things to note in Psalm 139:13-14. Likewise Psalm 27:3. If you are a Christian and you get to the point of being vilified and all that, you can take inspiration from these scriptures.
One characteristics of a self-confident person is that they are not perturbed by what people say or do. Do you stop to throw stones at every dog that barks at you?
Self-confident people take criticisms constructively
In as much as people “talk,” there are some people who give honest feedback and these are people to keep. Because you are self-confident doesn’t mean you are beyond mistakes. Your ability to even see reason from what other people share as feedback with you alone is a good credit for you.
Self-confident people develop themselves constantly and it reflects in what they do. Their self-confidence reflects in their careers, their personal lives, associations with other people at workplace, school etc.
If you are not learning to develop yourself, I’m sorry but you’re going nowhere. You’ll remain in class one and everyone else will be way ahead of you. You don’t want that to happen to you.
How to Practically Build Your Self-Confidence
#1 Count Your Blessings
Being aware of these blessings, has a way of positioning you to be self-confident and remaining that way. It’s not even in the material things you have. Things like your talent, gifts, and intangible blessings go a long way.
#2 Seek positive support.
Everybody needs somebody. I need you to thrive and you need me to thrive. Don’t live on an island. Give positive support as much as you take from people.
#3 Be mindful of people within your circle who tend to dim your light.
When you identify such people, what you have to do is to cut them off! No bad energy. Sorry, not sorry.
Building self-confidence should be a necessity in the lives of every individual. There are some key factors you have to put into consideration when you want to build self-confidence. First factor is to know yourself. Constructively accept criticisms and take time to develop yourself.
Also, there are practical ways of building self-confidence which include; counting your blessings, seeking positive support and also being mindful of people within your circle who tend to dim your light.
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